Men's Health
    Updated at: June 13, 20244 min read

    Top Causes Of Stress For Men On Valentine's Day

    It may be all about love and romance but often for men, Valentine’s Day ends up being more about stress and anxiety. There seems like a lot to remember and there seems like so much room for error, but Valentine's Day doesn’t have to be as stressful as you think.

    Key Takeaways

    Manage Expectations:

    Don't stress about doing something extravagant for Valentine's Day. Most people appreciate simple gestures that show you care. Avoid getting caught up in unrealistic social media expectations and plan ahead to reduce last-minute anxiety.

    Address Performance Anxiety:

    Valentine's Day can bring performance anxiety, especially in new relationships. If erectile dysfunction is a concern, medications like Viagra or Cialis can help. For premature ejaculation, slow down and consider using condoms or anaesthetic creams like Emla. If needed, Priligy can help with better control.

    Avoid Financial Strain:

    Valentine's Day doesn't have to be expensive. Instead of costly gifts and dining out, consider cooking a special meal at home and opting for longer-lasting gifts like a potted plant. Focus on spending quality time together rather than spending a lot of money.

    Unrealistic expectations

    A lot of men worry that what they do or buy for their partner won’t be enough. But this is largely due to unrealistic images on social media that lead men to thinking they need to do something extravagant in order to make their partner happy (Marmalade Trust, 2024).

    Most people want the day to be about romance and showing that you care. So a simple gesture or a small gift to show that you really know them is bound to go down better than something over the top.

    Just relax, take the pressure off yourself and plan in advance so that you don’t have to deal with any last-minute panic-planning.

    A man and a lady on a bed being sexually active

    Performance anxiety

    Although women might assume that any potential sex is a man’s favourite part of Valentine’s Day, it can actually cause most men a lot of performance anxiety (MAC Clinical Research, 2023), particularly if the relationship is new.

    Many men cannot get or maintain an erection, which can cause (and be caused by) stress (a vicious cycle). Thankfully erectile dysfunction medication such as Viagra (Sildenafil) and Cialis (Tadalafil) can help you to avoid any worry on the night. You can buy ED pills from UK Meds without a prescription, by using our online consultation system.

    If you don’t have any worries about your ability to sustain an erection but you are worried about finishing too quickly then you’re more likely to be suffering from premature ejaculation. Slow down and take your time; often the worry of not lasting long enough can make the situation worse.

    Focus on your partner and try various ways to reduce sensation on the penis to slow yourself down. This can be done with condoms or with anaesthetic cream like EMLA cream. If you’re still struggling with premature ejaculation then Priligy can help to give you better control.

    A man holding a bunch of roses and a love letter in his hands

    Financial strain

    Whether or not you do presents for Valentine’s Day is something that’s individual to each couple and it’s not something you have to participate in at all (Money Wellness, 2024). However, a lot of couples choose to and again, it’s expected that the man will buy his partner something nice.

    Pair the gift-giving with an expensive restaurant and flowers that are twice the price they normally are and the whole thing can cause financial strain. 

    Instead of adding to any money worries you might already have, there are plenty of ways that you can save some money and avoid splashing the cash. Instead of a lavish 3 course meal out, why not try cooking a meal at home instead? You can still make it special with candles, music and a posh pudding.

    And instead of a dozen cut red roses, you could buy a potted plant like an Orchid instead. That way your partner can enjoy the gift for longer!

    Relax and have fun

    Although you might be worried, the important thing to remember is that Valentine’s Day is supposed to be fun and is all about spending time with the one you love. So just relax and try to enjoy it!

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